Since I’m recently separated, sex seems like a weird topic to be talking about right now. I’m just laying my cards on the table. Awkwaaardddd… If you think you’re uncomfortable, imagine how my kids will be if they read this.
I don’t want to weird anyone out. But we can be honest and true with each other, right?
Even before my husband and I split, I wondered how peri-menopause and menopause were going to affect us in that area. And now, it’s an even bigger question. Like I need to add another element to all the big unknowns I’ve got looming over me…
This year has been something else. Can we agree that 2016 has not been my friend? There have been way too many changes—mental and physical. When I sit myself down I realize that I’m going to have to face some hard facts.
Fact 1: The man who has been my one and only sexual partner for the past 25 years and who knows me better than anyone and who knows all my bits almost better than me isn’t in the picture anymore.
Fact 2: unless I plan on being celibate for the rest of my life I’m probably going to get down with someone new at one point or another (stop blushing, you know everyone does it right? Even old ladies of 47 like me…) That’s a totally weird concept after such a long time.
Fact 3: since I’m approaching the big M, body might choose to betray me and not act according to plan. Nobody needs something like vaginal dryness to make things with a new partner even more uncomfortable than they need to be.
I’m just putting it out there, that while divorce might be in my future, so is the rest of my life, including my sex life. It may be way too soon to imagine what that might look like, but since I want to move on eventually and live a full life, I’m getting my information lined up. I’m a planner, if nothing else, so I’m doing some research.
I already know that vaginal dryness is an expected symptom for women approaching and reaching menopause and I want that to be the least of my worries. Yes, I’ve heard that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, but that’s not really for me. I’m not ready to think about a new man yet, but I’m sure I’m going to be intimate with someone at one point, and when I do I want to be comfortable and prepared.
I’m glad there are products out there to help along the way like K-Y Brand lubricants. K-Y offers a versatile range of intimacy products like K-Y Jelly, K-Y Liquid, K-Y Sensual Silk, or K-Y Warming jelly to help ease discomfort due to vaginal dryness and the new—or old—love awkwardness. What I like about K-Y products is how they make it easier for women- married or divorced- to create intimate moments and build emotional closeness with their partner.
Yes, a time like this is very hard for me and the next steps difficult to imagine. But I have to be optimistic that I will have a wonderful life and hopefully meet someone who I can walk into the twilight with. Life does go on (eventually) and I’ll have to learn how to enjoy it.
In all kinds of ways.
Although this post has been generously sponsored by K-Y Canada, the opinions and language are my own, and in no way do they reflect opinions of the K-Y Canada brand or the Reckitt Benckiser corporation.